Compromises and Conversations

Finding common ground is more than just a series of compromises and conversations, it is about remembering what it is that makes the other person so unique and special to you and bringing that to the front of your mind when you feel the world coming in and crashing. We tend to allow life to overwhelm not only us but everything around us, including those we love. We forget that even though we see each other through thick and thin, sometimes our hearts are not as tough as our skins. Even the strongest of us have a point where we just want scream and throw up the white flag in defeat because we just seem not to be able to accomplish anything positive or do anything to help ease the situation except cause more turmoil and more stress. Life is not a perfect scene of moonlight and roses, it is a never ending road of bumps, curves, twists, and turns that can make you smile, cry, laugh, scream, and everything in between all at the same time. Sometimes you just cannot help the way life has been or is going to be, but you can help the way you live it.

Extra Baggage: and I don't Mean Fat!

Why must society label women who have children as “baggage” or “damaged goods”? Have we been tested in a laboratory somewhere in some remote corner of the globe and research shows the statistics are not in your favor if you are to start a relationship with us? How is our baggage so different than that of others? Maybe we are smarter, wiser, and plain realize the crap that we will and will not put up with and that makes us harder to attain and therefore to label is easier than to pursue. We endure so much as single mothers with our never-ending schedules and limited sleep and then we must add to that the struggle of having to overcome the stigma of “worthlessness” in the eyes of society and try to make a life as a single woman as well. Our beds are just as empty, just as needful- but a bit harder to crawl into. It doesn’t make us Queens of Ice or unreachable, just means we come to the table with a little more knowledge, a bit of integrity, and tad of skeptism that if your willing to chip at it, you could find exactly what you have been looking for.